6 ways to live your best life

This summer, I challenge you to live your best life. 

I challenge you to use all the potential that you have in order to create a life you love. Most importantly, I want to encourage you to never let your situation dictate your happiness. Your ‘worst life’ is one that is dictated by your circumstances. It is a life where you are just a passenger. It’s basically the sunken place. With that being said, I want to share with you tips and advice to encourage you to LIVE YOUR BEST LIFE!

Learn to enjoy your own company.
There are two things you cannot run away from: death and yourself. Hence, I hope you are a person you would want to spend the rest of your days with. And if not, I hope you become one. How? TAKE YOURSELF ON A DATE! Go to the park by yourself with a book, some snacks and a good playlist for at least two hours. Go watch a movie or attend a concert alone. Scared to go to diner on your own? Feel the fear and do it anyway! While it might seem intimidating at first, it is rewarding. For instance, you never depend on anyone to do something fun like traveling! If I want to book a holiday, I don’t have to go through the stress of organizing a group vacation. I’d be damned if I missed out on the opportunity of sipping a cocktail on a beach, just because I am not comfortable being by myself out in public. So if you have been thinking of booking a trip this summer, but your friends are literally trippin’; this is a sign that you should go at it alone and have the time of your life! Living your best life starts with YOU. 

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Take a digital break
I temporarily deactivated most of my social media accounts. Lately, social media made me lose a lot of confidence which I tried to compensate by showcasing a perfect image online. I was living ‘my best life’ in tweet, but not in truth. Spending a few hours each day scrolling down your timeline, looking at pictures of friends and strangers who seem to live their best life 24/7, will demolish you. Social media is 99.1% highlight reel. We all want to share only happy and beautiful moments online, and it’s understandable. But it’s important to look at it with enough distance to understand that these pictures are just moments. They are not a reflection of people’s entire lives. If you compare your situation to someone else’s highlight reel, it’s time you give your digital life a break. Do you spend a lot time online in the hope of making others think that your life is amazing? Imagine how amazing your real life could be, if you dedicated just as much energy to actually living it. Look up from your screen. If you are triggered by certain people, unfollow them, simple. Become intentional about having a timeline which overflows with positivity. Social media is not bad in itself but we have to be mindful of how we use it, and learn to give it a rest regularly.

Invest in your health
Health is wealth. You can’t live your best life without it. There are one million of benefits from leading a healthy lifestyle. For me, they’re all linked to self-confidence. Working out early in the morning, going to the office afterwards, eating my healthy packed lunch honestly make me feel like I have my life together. And that feeling of ‘having my life together’ is priceless! But being healthy does not have to be an expensive or difficult change to your lifestyle either. I hate the gym so instead of paying a membership, I would suggest investing in a fitness mat, some resistance bands, a dumbbell, a skipping rope and a good pair of sneakers. I use an app called 8 Fit and let me tell you, I have tried about a dozen of fitness apps before, but nothing comes close to this one! They offer a variety of personalized exercises for free. When I am not using this app, to get exercises routine, I usually check out my favorite fitness instagram accounts; @annavictoria, @massy.arias and @trainthehardest. I will soon upload a full article on health & fitness loaded with tips and links, so make sure you watch out for this!

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Remain curious
Food has always been a first step towards sparking my interest for foreign cultures. Food is a gateway to civilizations (quote me on this lol). When I don’t have holidays, I make it a priority to discover food from countries I know nothing about. For instance, I pretty much became obsessed with China when I was 14 years old, after trying my first 餃子 (dumpling). Fast forward a few years later, I decided to learn Chinese, visit China and eventually move there. At least once a month, I try to go on a culinary discovery. When I am in Paris, I check out Le Grumeau or Paris Zig Zag ; these two websites specialize in finding the most unexpected restaurants in the city and they cover a wide range of cuisine. When in London, London Cheap Eats is the plug. And last but not least for my New York people, TimeOut New York is always my go to! An important part of living your best life is to remain curious about the world that surrounds you. Food is just one of the many ways that help me out in doing this.

Plan time for your loved ones
An important part of living your best life is to never let your schedule dictate your life, but rather to make time work for yourself. If you are working full-time, I understand how difficult it can be, but will and efforts go a long way! Your schedule cannot be the reason why you do not get to spend quality time with your loved ones. Seek balance between work and those who matter to you. That’s why planning quality time with friends and family is so key. We’ve all been guilty of bumping into a friend, vowing to meet up for a coffee but never actually making it happen. Next time someone asks you to meet up, please do not answer “OMG yesss girl” or “Definitely bro, let’s arrange something”. Instead, pull up your calendar and select a couple of dates+time, so you can give that person options to which you can both agree. Make sure you precise a TIME and a starting location as well. Most importantly, stick to it. Being a flake will prevent you from living your best life. Execute it with as much as purpose as you would for a very important business meeting. Basically, PLAN IT LIKE YOU MEAN IT!

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Give back.
“You have never really lived until you have done something for someone who can never repay you.”  John Bunyan
Give some of your time away this summer! Volunteer at a local association. Help a friend to write a cover letter. Tutor a kid for free. Giving back has a positive effect on your own self-esteem, but also on your happiness. Not only do I feel super useful whenever I can help people, but it is a constant reminder that at the end of the day, no man is an island. It also reminds me that living my best life, can also mean helping others to live their best lives. Sharing tips and encourage others to be the best version of themselves, makes me insanely happy. That’s why I decided to start this blog in the first place. I believe that we can all gain from giving back, whether it’s your time or your knowledge. We live in really awful times, where tragedies like Grenfell Tower fire happen too often. Trust me, we all have something to give because there will always be someone in need.

Lastly, on your way to making your best life happen, do not forget to have fun with it! We are all driven, we are all trying to make it but let us not forget that there is a time for everything. Including turning up, relaxing, putting your feet up and let loose a little.

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Thank you for reading and riding with me.
Bénédicte

Pictures by my wonderful friend Julien Sarkar (check him out!) and they were all taken in Seoul, South Korea.